0:00 How God Ordained it in the beginning Okay, we were thinking about how God ordained it in the beginning. There are many things in the New Covenant where God's purpose is to lead us actually 0:25 beyond the beginning. That means what Adam and Eve were in the time they were created was much less than where Christ brings us when He fills us with His Holy Spirit in the New Covenant. 0:47 So even if you get back to where Adam and Eve were, you haven't got to where Christ wants you. Our God, it's not just that when Adam sinned, He dipped down and Christ brought us back to that level. That itself would have been great. 1:03 But Christ has taken us to a much higher level than where Adam was in Genesis 1 and 2. If we don't see that, we'll just be satisfied with that. Today, the example for us is not Adam and Eve, but it's Jesus Christ in the church. 1:19 That relationship is our example. So that's a much higher standard, but there are certain principles that we were looking at. And here, let's turn back to Genesis 2. I mentioned how God created a woman to be a helper for Adam. 1:46 And like someone has said, God didn't take Eve out of Adam's head or a bone in the head, because he didn't want her to rule him, and he didn't take her out of a bone in his feet, because he didn't want him to rule her. But he took her from a rib on his side, so that he would always recognize that she is equal 2:11 to him. But there are certain principles he laid down. Have you ever wondered why there's a verse like this? First of all, before I come to that, notice it says in verse, that before God made Eve, 2:34 God made Eve in the latter part of the sixth day. The first part of the sixth day, he made the animals. See, on the fifth day, he made all the fish and the birds. But why didn't he make the animals also, the earth animals, on the fifth day? 2:56 He could have done it, fish, birds, animals, but he didn't. You notice that, you notice it if you read the Bible, slowly, right. On the fifth day, he made the fish and the birds. And on the sixth day, he made the animals in the first part of the sixth day. 3:17 And the second part of the sixth day, it's all in Genesis 1, he made man. And I think the reason was to tell man, it's very easy for you to descend to the level of the animals if you're not careful, because you're made from the same dust that they're made from. 3:34 But in that, after God made Adam, we read here, just in those few hours, before he made Eve. It says here, Genesis 2:19, out of the ground, he made all the beasts, birds. And he brought them all to the man and asked man to name them. 4:02 And the man gave names, verse 20, to all the cattle, to the birds, to every beast of the field. Now, any zoologist will tell you how many, is it hundreds of thousands of animals and birds there are. Imagine if you were asked to give names to every single bird. 4:18 I think you'd forget after, whether you're repeating some name after you've even done 25 names. It shows what a fantastically intelligent person Adam was. When God created him, before sin came into the world, just think of his capacity there, 4:32 his brain. Well, this is the 150,000th name I'm giving and I know I have not said this name before, in the last 149,999 times. And then, he still doesn't have a wife. And the interesting thing is, the way this is written, man gave names to all the cattle 4:54 and the birds of the sky to everybody's field, but, let me read it like this, none of them were suitable to be a helper for Adam. That's the way it says. That means, Adam is saying, hey, these guys, these animals have all got pairs, I'm the only 5:11 one all alone. And how is that, none of them were suitable. And then, looked at all of them, said no, no. What about that beautiful lioness, no, thank you. And after he said no to all of that, then God gave him his wine. 5:38 So remember, he had seen what, 200,000 animals and birds, and he said no to all of that. And then he finds this, then God says, okay, what about this one? And in the living Bible, it's beautifully paraphrased, in Genesis 2:23, he said, this is it. 6:01 This is it. He's rejected 150,000 or 200,000 or a million, I don't know how many there are. And he said, this is it. Now, what I want to say is, have you ever said that about your wife? This is it. Not all the other 200,000 I've met, but this one. 6:23 And do you continue to say that later on, even if you did say that on your wedding day? You know, there are many people who ask me in different, only in Indian churches, brother Zach, was your marriage a love marriage? As if it's one of the biggest crimes in the world, to have a love marriage. 6:49 And I say, yes, it was, sure. I said, this is it. And even if you didn't, you should say it when you get married and continue to say it. It's very important to have that appreciation which Adam had right at the beginning, which 7:13 he lost pretty quickly. He lost it so quickly that in a day or so, he was blaming the same wife for leading him into sin, and there you see the difference between unfallen Adam and fallen Adam. He looks at his wife before he fell and said, this is it, boy, it's better than everything 7:31 I ever saw. As soon as he falls to get out of trouble, he tells Adam, my wife, she's the one to blame. This wife you gave me as a blaming God for giving. You see how from light to darkness, he went so suddenly in his relationship with his wife. 7:49 That's what sin does. Don't ever forget that. So sin is the thing that makes you stop appreciating the husband or wife God gives you. It's not a crime to love your wife or husband. 8:11 I had a piece of poetry here, which let me read it to you. Amid the cares of married life, in spite of toil and business strife, if you value your sweet 8:32 wife, sweet wife, tell her so. There was a time when you thought it bliss to get the favor of one kiss, a dozen now won't come amiss. Tell her so. Is that shocking? Do Indian husbands kiss their wives or expect a kiss from their wives? 8:58 You know, a lot of our thinking, I want to tell you, is influenced by the non-Christian surrounding religion. That's the problem. That's the problem. Read the Song of Solomon. Okay. Don't act as if she's past her prime. 9:17 That's for those whose wives are getting older. As though to please her were a crime, if ever you loved her, now is the time. Tell her so. You are hers and hers alone, well you know that she's all your own. 9:39 Don't wait to carve it on a stone, tell her now. Never let her heart grow cold, richer beauties will unfold. She is worth her weight in gold, tell her so. 10:01 This business of appreciation is another area where we as Indian people are big misers. We are so careful to give appreciation to anybody. We never give it even, I mean we'd say to a doctor who did some wonderful surgery or treatment 10:26 to save our child from certain death. Boy, we'd never hesitate to say that, but so many other things we take for granted. Some way, let me see if I can find it. I had written here about, I don't know if it's here, but maybe I can't find it immediately. 10:51 But I had copied down from somewhere the number of hours a wife works in her lifetime in our house cooking meals. It's some 10,000 hours or something like that and she walks about 10,000 miles in the house during her lifetime. 11:08 It's all for you. So we don't appreciate that. Imagine a person who walks so many miles in a few years and vice versa. I mean look at the way her husband slogs in the office, works with bosses shouting at him, etc. And it's for a family, the need for appreciation. 11:29 And we, I have noticed that in the way people sometimes come to appreciate me for a sermon. They always introduce themselves saying, "Brother, I hope this won't fuck you up. You know, this is the introduction, you know, I'm not trying to swell your head. 11:44 I'm not trying to flattery." And after about two minutes of introduction, there's one sentence. We appreciate the message. I say, "What's the key for all that introduction?" As if you're so concerned that other people shouldn't be puffed up. 11:57 You know, other people are not like you, brother. They don't get puffed up like you. They've learned to walk in humility. They're a little different. They're a little better. Why not acknowledge that? They're not all like you. 12:10 When you want to appreciate, just go and say, appreciate. Just like Jesus appreciated the military, Roman military man. You know that military man who said, "I know, speak the word and my servant will be healed over there in Matthew chapter 8." 12:23 What did the Lord say? He didn't say, "Well, I don't want to puff you up. I know you're a military man and you're probably used to this, but I just don't want you to be swollen-headed. But I want to say that this is the greatest faith I found in Israel." 12:33 Did he say it like that? We are most un-Christ-like because we don't know how to express appreciation. He looks at Nathanael and says, "There's a man without guide. No introduction, nothing. No will he get puffed up, nothing like that." 12:50 And to the Roman Centurion, "Blessed are you, Simon Bar-Jonah. Flesh and blood has not revealed it to you. Brother, sister, forget all introductions and just say, I really appreciate that." Do that to your children. That spirit of, "This is it. 13:07 God gave me something which I don't deserve." Towards your husband and wife. There's almost nothing better than that to preserve a marriage in the way it should be. Otherwise, you'll be admiring other pretty women. When you see a pretty woman, just imagine what she looks like when the flesh is taken away from her face. 13:45 Think of that. There's nothing left. It's only a skeleton. Hideous. I remember one person calling this just an interesting arrangement of molecules. 14:05 That's what a pretty face is. If you know chemistry, all matter is made up of molecules. You just arrange it a certain way and it's an ugly face. You arrange it another way, it's a pretty face. It's just an interesting arrangement of molecules. 14:18 It's a chemical thing, you know. You're pretty stupid. You say, "Ah, if it were arranged like this, I wouldn't look at it. But if it was arranged like this, boy, it's great." The stupidity of man is amazing how he would destroy what God has given him. 14:44 A beautiful relationship and marriage for something which one day he'll see is all empty. So never lose that sense of this is it. Always appreciating. You know, in Malachi, there's a beautiful verse, which I often think of. 15:19 Malachi chapter 2. The verse 14. The Lord has been witness. He says in verse 13, the last part, it's no use weeping the tears before the Lord, because he doesn't accept your offering. Like Peter says, he doesn't listen to your prayer anymore. 15:39 Because, what reason? Because the Lord has been a witness between you and the wife of your youth, against whom you have dealt treacherously, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant. But those who have a remnant of the Holy Spirit, they don't do it, verse 15. 15:58 They are in the business of producing, verse 15, the middle, godly offspring. So take heed to your spirit that no one deals treacherously with the wife of your youth. Why does he use that expression twice? The wife of your youth, the wife of your youth. 16:16 That's because what the Lord is trying to say is that you must always look at your wife the way she was when she was young, when she was a youth, when she was young. And that's important that we keep that in mind. 16:36 Always think of your wife as the wife of your youth. When, whenever I look at my wife, I say she's the wife of my youth. My favorite picture of her is when something taken when she was around 25 or 26 years old. I mean, the gray hair and all that is just a fact of nature. 16:55 The wife of your youth. Always look at your wife as the wife of your youth. Then you won't be attracted to anybody else. You preserve yourself in that and God will be with you. He'll listen to your prayers. Many of our prayers don't get answered. 17:13 Because you're not faithful in your thoughts to the wife of your youth. You could have been a man of God today. But God saw you were treacherous to your wife in your thought life. I often tell people the way you talk to some women in your office. 17:34 Maybe you don't even touch them, but would you continue to speak to her in the same way if your wife walked in at the same time? If not, there's sexual infidelity there, even though you didn't touch her. There's a lot of sexual infidelity in the way men talk to women in their place of work or other places. 17:58 They are being treacherous to the wife of their youth. And that's the reason why we don't have more men of God in the portents. Because God is not with you. The tragedy of men who should have been anointed by the Spirit who are not 18:13 because of their unfaithfulness in their marriage life. So I encourage you brothers, sisters, brothers, be faithful with your eyes, be faithful with your thoughts. Always have that said out of a hundred and fifty thousand or a million God picked out one. 18:28 This is it. And always look at her as the wife of your youth. God has really chosen her for you and appreciate that. There may be weaknesses in her and there are weaknesses in you. The perfect husband is who? The one who does not expect a perfect wife. 18:49 The perfect wife is the one who does not expect to have a perfect husband. That's the perfect husband and wife. The one who expects a perfect partner is an imperfect person himself. So the wife of your youth. This is very, very important. 19:06 Ezekiel. Do you know that Ezekiel was a great husband? Can you tell me the verse that teaches about Ezekiel's attitude towards his wife? You would have known it if you had read the Bible slowly. 19:27 Okay. In Ezekiel, the Lord speaks to him about chapter 24. You know, his wife was going to die. It's about the only place in the whole book where his wife is mentioned. And his wife is going to die. 19:49 And the Lord was going to do it. The Lord is going to take away his wife. But he warned him in advance. But see what he says. In Ezekiel 24. Verse 15. The word of the Lord came to me saying. Verse 16. Son of man, I'm going to take away from you. 20:06 What does he call his wife? The desire of your eyes to the blow. What a testimony. I say, Lord. Can you say to me that my wife was the desire of my eyes? This is God speaking. 20:26 God knew that Ezekiel was such a faithful husband. With his eyes. Some of us glorying the fact that we have not sexually been unfaithful to our wives. What about your eyes, brother? Can God say to you? I can testify your wife is the desire of your eyes. 20:52 You could have been a prophet. If you were just faithful in that area. People go, God doesn't give that gift only to somebody. Well, I'll tell you what. He gives it to those who are faithful with their eyes. And that's why he didn't give it to you, perhaps. 21:07 The desire of your eyes. God takes these things seriously. He doesn't listen to your prayers. He says, because you have dealt treacherously. So this is it. This is a very important thing. Okay. Let's go back to the beginning again. 21:23 Genesis 2 verse 24. Because verse 23. She was taken out of the man. A man must leave his father and his mother and cleave to his wife. You know, it's very interesting as to where that couple of things here. 21:48 One, why in the world is that verse come in Genesis 2 when Adam didn't have a father and mother? Adam didn't have a father and mother to leave. Why does that verse come there? Because it was a principle that God laid down for all future marriages. 22:07 Ever after Adam and Eve, everybody else would have a father and mother. And it was not written for Adam. But they had to leave their father and mother. And it's something like, the best example whenever you have a doubt is look at Jesus. 22:23 You see, there was a day in Jesus' life when he left his mother. Then you understand what leaving means. And his mother told him to do something in Cana, right the very first. He said, "Woman, what have I got to do with you?" 22:39 He said, "Attitude." I'm sorry. I'm now in a new relationship with my father in heaven and I have to fulfill his ministry. And I can't do what you say like I did for 30 years. And it must have been a shock to Mary who had sacrificed so much. 23:04 You know, Mary sacrificed more for Jesus than any mother has ever done for a child. She bore the stigma of having what people thought was an illegitimate child. But she bore that stigma and yet Jesus would turn to her and say, "Don't try to interfere in my life. 23:30 I can't listen to you anymore." And I believe there comes a time when we need to take that position with our parents when we get married. Both husband and wife. You see, it doesn't say that the wife has to leave our father and mother. 23:47 Well, it's true in one sense. But Jesus and the scriptures are written in a culture. Genesis is written by Moses. And God speaks in a situation where it was commonly accepted that a woman left, like in Indian culture, and a woman leaves her parents' home and comes to her husband as soon as she's married. 24:08 She takes her husband's name and everything else. Things are changing because the world is drifting away from God. But that detachment is necessary from both sides. In fact, in Psalm 45 and verse 10, it says to the bride of the king, "Forget your father's house." 24:28 So there is a word there for the women to forget your father's house. "So shall the king greatly desire your beauty." Verse 11, Psalm 45. So there has to be a leaving from both sides, husband and wife, if there has to be a cleaving. 24:48 "Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother," Genesis 2:24, "and cleave to his wife." Why is that? It says, "For this cause," verse 24, "for this cause." "Because," verse 23, "she was taken out of the man." 25:11 "Therefore," so Eve was taken out of Adam, his rib, part of him, bone of his bone and flesh of his flesh. Do you know that even a mother cannot say that about her own child? Even though she carried her for nine months in the womb. 25:31 She cannot say, "This is bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh." I mean, she contributed a little egg and some nourishment for nine months. But it wasn't an integral part of her body. It was another body being supplied. 25:45 But Eve was not like that. He was an actual bone of Adam's body. Made into, that's why it says, "Bone of his bone and flesh of his flesh." Now, "Bone of my bone," verse 23, "flesh of my flesh." Because she was taken out of man, therefore, a man must leave his father and mother. 26:09 In other words, the relationship there is supposed to be closer, deeper than the one we had with our parents. That's why the relationship between Christ and the church is not symbolized by father, son, but by husband, wife in Ephesians 5. 26:28 And there you see what an intimate relationship God wants husband and wife to have. And there has to be a detachment from other attachments. That's the principle of leaving father and mother. It doesn't mean we have to ignore them. 26:46 Because Jesus did not ignore his mother, even when he was hanging on the cross. He had four younger brothers and two younger sisters who could have well taken care of Mary. But he still knew he's the eldest son, he's got a responsibility. 26:58 While hanging on the cross with all that agony and suffering, he's thinking of his mother. It's good to be like that in the midst of all your suffering. You think of your parents who cared for you and helped you, both husband and wife. 27:10 So you see the balance in Jesus. He didn't tell his parents, "I've got nothing to do with you." He cared for them in the moment of his greatest agony. He was totally selfless, but he would not let them interfere in his ministry. 27:24 That's the point. He didn't tell his mother, "I don't care for you." What he told his mother was, "Please don't interfere in my ministry. But of course, I'll care for you. When I'm dying, I'll provide for you. And I'll make sure that one of my disciples takes care of you." 27:37 To make sure that your parents are well taken care of, both husband and wife, is a responsibility. They took care of you when you were helpless, a helpless baby. You would have died if they didn't take care of you. So take care of your aged parents. 27:53 That's necessary. Provide for them. If they are in need financially, you must help them. But leaving then, what does it mean? Leaving is emotional. You know, many cases in India, sometimes people are so poor that they cannot physically leave. 28:07 They may have to just live in one room in their parents' house, due to financial necessity. But even there, it's possible to emotionally leave, without having physically to leave. I mean, there are people, some of us, maybe well off, most of us are, or all of us perhaps, 28:24 well off enough to have our own home, because we earn enough. But there are many in the villages in India who are poor, who cannot afford to leave their own home. We don't despise them. God trained me for working in the villages of India by having to stay, by being very poor 28:50 in the first three years of our married life, first of all. And at least a couple of those years, I found I had to stay with my parents. I had quit my naval job. I had no income. We were extremely poor. And there was no other way. 29:04 And I didn't understand. It wasn't easy. And I don't recommend it to anyone. But I didn't realize that God was training me and preparing me not to despise poor people in the villages in India who are in that situation. But if you are staying with parents just to make more money, you may not get that much grace. 29:29 We were not staying with parents because we had no money at all. But that's an important principle that even if you have to live with your parents, you must not be emotionally attached to them. Because parents, particularly our Indian parents, have a tremendous way of interfering in married 29:48 couples' lives. It's traditional, non-Christian Indian culture which Christians have absorbed to interfere in the affairs of their parents and for children to consult their parents more than they consult their husbands or wives. 30:07 That is corrupt culture. I don't say Western culture is right. Western culture is just as bad. These are two cliffs. Christian culture is in between. I don't follow Western culture. I think it's rotten to the core. Just like every culture in the world, there's a Christian culture which is in the Bible. 30:26 That's what I seek to follow. And that's balanced. So that requires a leaving and a cleaving. And if you find today that your cleaving is not pretty tight and good, it's perhaps because your leaving is not good. You may have physically left your parents, but emotionally you're attached to them. 30:44 And if you take the side of your parents against your wife or against your husband, boy, that's the clearest proof that you're attached to your parents. You may find situations like that where God shows you. You'll never have a happy marriage because you're attached to your parents. 31:01 Are you? Love them. Care for them. Even if you're dying on a cross, provide for your parents like Jesus did. But don't be attached to them. You have to break that connection. It's like when you say, I've been so close to them all these years. 31:15 I can't give that up. It's like when a baby is born, the mother says, no, no, no. Don't cut that umbilical cord. It's been there nine months. We've been attached to each other. Don't cut it. Please don't cut it. Keep it, keep it, keep it. 31:25 What will happen to that baby? It'll die. And so will your marriage die. You have to cut that umbilical cord. And some people haven't cut it for years. And they are wondering why their marriage is dying. It'll keep dying till it dies permanently. 31:37 Till one day you decide the umbilical cord that ties you to your parents has to be cut. So, and then you'll be able to bless your parents more. Sometimes it's hard to tell your parents who've done so much for you. Dad, Mom. 31:59 See, we want to run our life. Please allow us to do that. We love you. We respect you tremendously. I love you. You've done so much for me. I'll never be ungrateful. But the Bible says, I'm going to run my own life. Don't let them bring up your children. 32:15 Don't let them tell you how your children should be brought up. Grandparents ruin grandchildren. Unless they have very wise grandparents which you may find one in a billion. There may be about seven on the whole earth, that means. 32:32 You don't find them. Very rare. I think I'm one of the seven. I'm not being proud because I've decided to obey the Bible cover to cover. That's the only reason. I do not interfere in the lives of my married children one bit. 32:49 It's like I got a lot of training in the churches we planted. I'd go to those churches and sit on the floor and never interfere with the way they're running it. I mean once upon a time you started this church whether it's 33:03 Chutukurin or Quotiam or anywhere but I said there are other elders how they're running it. My job is to sit on the floor and do what they tell me to do. So I got a lot of practice for that and that's exactly what I do now when I visit my children's homes. 33:17 Dear brothers and sisters don't let outside forces come and destroy your marriage. You can crieve if you leave. It may not be as you say I don't I'm not attached to father and mother. I'll tell you you may be attached to your computer. 33:32 Have you heard of computer widows? Therefore shall a man leave his computer and cleave to his wife? Cleave to his wife do you need that commandment? I don't mean neglect it you need it for survival probably that's the means of earning your living 33:54 that's fine go ahead and do it but don't get so attached to it. I have to keep saying that to myself many times. We have to you know particularly those of you who are working away from home I've had the privilege of being able to work from home. 34:16 So if I work at the computer quite a lot with emails and various things but still I'm at home all the time there's a lot of opportunity to interact with my wife but those of you are working away from home so many hours you know traveling coming back you're almost 12 hours away from home 34:33 then try your best to to leave your computer and to leave your wife it could be something else you know leave your cricket game or whatever it is that you've got a tremendous attachment to that's taking away from time with your wife there are necessities and there are things which are luxuries we can afford 34:53 to do without that extra you know this I'll tell you this internet is one of the greatest snares if you're not careful I'm not talking about pornography that's absolutely evil I'm talking about all the other information that we can go searching looking for and browsing and things like that these are for 35:14 people who have plenty of time with nothing to do I mean with all these I don't know what they call those sites Facebook and things like that if you're spending more time with the bible than with Facebook have it but if you find you're spending 35:33 more time with Facebook than the bible brother you better seriously consider whether you're a born again Christian or not that's all I say I'm saying keep these things in their proper place keep them as servants don't let them rule you everybody in the world doesn't know what you're 35:48 doing or what you had for breakfast or things like that these are stupid things they write in all these blogs and whatnot a lot of you know the devil has got a lot of things by which to sidetrack people from being effective for God and it's not always with sin and having a good married life take time 36:09 with your wife you know it's spending time with your wife is like putting a little bit of money in a bank one day in time of trouble it'll help you it'll save you from a lot of conflicts with your wife you know if you have a large reserve of money in your bank account suddenly there's a big need you have 36:32 enough to draw on who are the people who have clashes with their wife those who have never spent any time in previous years making any deposits of time spent together and then suddenly there's a clash there's nothing in the bank account it just clash now don't think oh brother zach he's done this wonderful 36:57 thing all 41 years no i started as a stupid idiotic husband 41 years ago and i had to learn the hard way because i didn't have anybody to sit and talk to me like i'm talking to you now i wish i had i longed for a spiritual father when i was a young man i never got one the great man i admired in india were 37:17 sadhu sundar singh and brother buck singh both of whom did not have family lives and i could follow i said who's the family man i can follow who's serving the lord i couldn't find one who could be an example so i sort of struggled through this to defeat and the mire of defeat and failure and anger and 37:38 selfishness and not knowing but gradually i found my way through this maze as i understood the scriptures more and more and said lord i want to follow this i want to live a godly life on earth i want to fulfill your purpose for me in my personal life my family life and i can honestly say what i'm saying is absolutely 37:56 true in my life today it's wonderful my life is wonderful my personal life i really know what it is to walk with the lord but it's taken many years but what i want to say is for many of you who have the benefit of you know they say if somebody else already invented the wheel you don't have to 38:15 reinvent the wheel that's already been invented you can get the benefit of that and move on from there we can move on from the advantages we got through somebody else having gone through something i mean for example i don't have to invent the computer today it's already there we can move on to something 38:30 else and many other things like that i mean we get the benefit of all these fantastic programs there are on a computer which many others have labored and which 50 years ago when they couldn't have which is so useful for me so we are benefiting in our secular life in our family life for the use of a 38:49 car for example somebody invented the car or over 100 years ago which we're very thankful today so we must get the benefit of what we can learn from other people who've gone the hard way and learn some things that we don't have to make those mistakes again so if i tell you that well i took so many 39:10 years after i got married to really understand what these things are you don't have to take that long it's like somebody's saying uh it took me 25 years to discover the silicon chip because the computer is made from you don't have to spend 39:25 that time now you can just take it straight away somebody has already invented it so we don't have to go through the many years of defeat that somebody else went through uh because now we have the truth shall set you free we are very blessed so learn these things and value them i'll tell you this the number 39:45 one problem in india is that people don't leave and they try to clean there's something they're not leaving which is more important to them than their wife something that they spend so much time on it must be so perfect and all that no time there i'll tell you something even neatness and tidiness in 40:04 your home though it's a very valuable thing is not as important as happiness in the home i don't know whether you believe that no it doesn't matter if your home is a little untidy if you're both happy neatness and tightness is is good uh very often it's more for the sake of others that 40:24 they don't come to a cluttered up sitting room at least and also it's a luxury that people have who have grown up children can have or people who know children can have people who small children don't have that luxury of having a neat title and so even that is not as important as 40:42 fellowship with your partner remember that have your priorities right to work is essential because otherwise you won't be able to pay the rent you won't be able to pay the bills you won't be able to have a home at all so that there's certain things essential like having to go to work but then 40:58 there are a lot of other things we got to knock out in life in order to be able to be together with our partners take time fellowship cleaving fellowship companionship is the number one purpose of marriage and then they shall become one flesh the sexual relationship also is a very essential part of 41:21 what god has said right at the beginning it's not a sort of a and it's not only for the purpose of children having children because if it was only for the purpose of having children then a woman should be able to become pregnant any day of the year which you know is not true 41:42 why has god made that made it such that a woman can become pregnant only about three or four days in a month that's all i mean doctor will tell you that uh was it because god intended that the man and woman should have a sexual relationship only three four days in a month just think of it logically 42:06 no they're if they're married they can have sexual relationship every day and but yet they're not going to have children and children not going to be born out of that which to me is the clearest proof from almighty god himself that the sexual relationship was not intended 42:24 only for children which is another heathen concept that many so-called christian wives have in india no it was to express one's affection for one another i believe that these are desires that god 42:44 created in our body desire for food are any of you embarrassed to say i'm hungry no or desire to sleep rest we are not embarrassed to say i'm feeling sleepy i need to go to bed now but when it comes to a sexual desire we sort of are embarrassed embarrassed to almost admit that we have any desire like that 43:07 as if we are some type of eunuchs why are we embarrassed because we think oh that's sinful you know why because we've got this concept from the devil the filthy movies and all the filthy stories and everything have influenced us the devil has brainwashed us i'll tell you i'm talking about christians the 43:27 devil has brainwashed most born again believers to say that to have a desire for food is okay to have a desire for sleep is okay but to have a desire for sex ah that's wrong i'll tell you where it's wrong if you are desire if you have a desire for food and you steal that's wrong and if you have a desire to 43:51 sleep when you're driving a car that's wrong please don't but i'll tell you this do you know that sleeping in a meeting is not wrong it happens to me many times because i mean many people think i don't i'm not listening to me i may not be listening but that's because i'm just trying to get over a 12 44:11 hour jet lag when i'm sitting in some meetings and those folks who sit in the other people in the meeting don't even know but i'll give you one example you know i most times in the months of july and august i'm usually traveling for meetings in the west because it's a rainy time here in india 44:27 you don't have meetings and then the conference in courtiam is always at the end of august or early september so for the last i don't know 10 15 years 10 years at least i always come straight from a 12 bar jet lag into a conference and the cotton conference is the one conference where i'm most 44:45 of them sleeping in the meeting and the brothers at kerala are the ones who say brother zach doesn't listen to any of the other speakers he's sleeping on their screen is one of those classic examples of don't judge by what your 44:58 eyes see or your ears hear there could be a reason behind it the reason is this so i know sleeping in a meeting is not sin because one man who was did sleep in a meeting and dropped dead god raised him up to prove to prove for all time that anybody who sleeps in a meeting don't worry even if you drop dead i'll 45:17 raise you up i said praise the lord so god himself certified that part so you know but to sleep when you're driving sleeping you're driving is evil because you kill somebody yourself and somebody else so it's wrong sometimes to sleep if you're driving car you should be alert bring some coffee or something 45:36 like that and the same way sex is wrong if you want to even if you want to have it with someone other than your wife or you want to have it and you yield to it even in your mind before you're married then it's wrong if you want to have it and god's given your wife and you don't want to have it with her you want to have it with somebody else and you're thinking always 46:01 always about somebody else like all these filthy movies provoke you to do then that's evil and if you are watched sufficient of those evil movies in your unconverted days and perhaps in your converted days also like a lot of believers do then i don't know whether they're believers first of all 46:21 but then of course you get this the devil has brainwashed your mind i'm absolutely convinced that the devil has brainwashed the minds of many many born-again believers in this area of sex because they're not careful to keep their mind and thoughts pure even after they are born again they watch movies 46:43 where they're just about five seconds of some type of filth they say only it's five seconds but i tell you 20 years later you will forget the story of that movie but you'll remember that five seconds why is that test it think of some of the old movies you've watched 47:01 don't you remember that five seconds of filth more than the story why is that because there's an inner desire in you particularly men great longing for sexual provocation that's why you've got to be doubly careful keep it see what it says in hebrews 13 and verse 4 47:26 let marriage be held in honor let marriage be held in honor among everybody just like the honor that you would give to the president of the country or the governor or the prime minister treat marriage with something honorable and let the marriage bed be totally undefiled 47:50 don't defile your marriage bed with thoughts of other women or with other women because the reason is if you don't have any other reason for it fornicators and adulterers god will judge it's an amazing word fornicators 48:16 those who have sex before marriage adulterers who have sex after marriage god will judge you over there but you say he hasn't judged there seem to be a lot of fornicators and adulterers in the world seem to be flourishing that's right because it is appointed after men once to die and after that the judgment 48:44 so god is going to judge them after they die not before but there's absolutely certain that every fornicator and adulterer god will judge in some way or the other and some of that judgment will come right now in terms of aids or other diseases like that or 49:03 just that you can't be a prophet sorry because your wife is not the desire of your eyes somebody else's and you'll keep blaming god saying oh god hasn't given me that gift god wanted to give you that gift but one you didn't study the scriptures and second you allowed your eyes to wander all the 49:23 time okay you'll discover imagine standing before god one day god saying son i wanted you to be my prophet but you never controlled your wandering eyes and wandering thoughts so i had to set you aside and you kept saying god hasn't given me the gift god hasn't given me the gift and that wasn't the reason 49:44 at all the reason was your wandering eyes and your wandering thoughts you know how much the church in india has lost the church worldwide dear brothers and sisters take married life seriously leave cleave and become one flesh 50:07 now let me say a few words from 1 corinthians 13 this wonderful chapter on love husbands love your wives wives love your husbands both are in scripture husbands love your wives christ love the church 50:30 ephesians 5 25 wives love your husbands love your husbands titus chapter 2 verse 4 both are there and wives be subject to your husbands 50:55 and husbands be subject to your wives have you seen that are you wives eager to find out that verse i'll show it to you i'll be popular with all of you today ephesians chapter 5 verse 21 51:17 husbands be subject to your wives wives be subject to your husbands in the fear of christ tell me if i quoted the verse wrong read it carefully slowly you missed it because you didn't read it slowly husbands be subject to your wives to in the fear of christ 51:38 wives be subject to your husbands the fear of christ am i right or wrong slow to say right then it says wives be subject to your own husbands the point is we have misunderstood it when we think that subjection is all one way because subjection is not slavery 51:59 no it's not slavery it's because of the way god has made us in society god has said women must bear children man must be the head 52:19 man is not inferior because he can't bear children and the woman is not inferior because the man is the head no they're equal but different functions man is the leader the woman has the children so in 1 corinthians 13 i would encourage you to read verses 4 to 7 52:37 it's a wonderful passage where it speaks about love is patient making allowance for the fact that your wife or husband come from a completely different background used to different value systems now you've got to sort of learn to adjust together it'll take time 52:55 it's not going to happen overnight don't be impatient don't try to force her to be like yourself no let her be herself love is kind respect your partner appreciate the good points think about the rest yourself 53:17 anyway there are a number of things here love is not jealous love does not brag is not arrogant does not act unbecomingly that means always be respectful to each other in public and does not brag means that don't give your wife an inferiority complex by 53:38 showing off or showing how smart you are or clever you are or any such thing and don't does not seek its own always seeks the good of the other means finds out the need of the partner is not provoked that means its mercies are new every morning your mercy should be new every morning like 53:59 god's mercies are new every morning and does not rejoice in unrighteousness remember truth is not something you should sacrifice even to please your wife that's what adam did he sacrificed truth to please his wife don't ever do that and stand for the truth but in a gracious humble way covers all 54:22 things never expose your partner's wrongs publicly no make sure that you cover whatever you see don't talk about it don't go and talk to other people unless you are talking to an elder brother who knows how to keep confidences there's someone who can help you but don't go tom toning at all 54:42 our town believes all things it means you must believe a lot of women are suspicious my husband's going after men men men men men are can be suspicious too my wife is secretly giving some money to her parents my husband is looking another way trust the lord trust the lord don't 55:09 destroy your married life you may supposing one day the lord shows you all your suspicions were false and you discover in heaven everything you suspected was false and the lord says you had a miserable 30 years of married life because you allowed the devil to feed your mind with suspicions 55:28 if this by the fruit you should know that if there is something evil then ask god to expose it but till then you say lord i will not suspect i will not suspect anything if god clearly manifests it and don't judge by mistakes we all make mistakes don't read too much into a mistake you're destroying your 55:48 own married life it's like cutting off your hands well a lot of wives and husbands are like that they take a saw and cut off their suspicion suspicion believe hopes all things and even if things are not too good hope that things will get better endures all things in other words willing to pay any price 56:08 for a happy marriage and thereby you would have set up in your home a little manifestation of heaven on earth where your children can grow up and one day produce another home like yours to extend the kingdom of god on earth this is god's will for every single one of 56:31 your families not just for one or two outstanding families all of your children must be wholehearted disciples who set up homes that will themselves be tastes of heaven on earth not just one or two of your children all your children well you've got to train them from the beginning and the best way to 56:49 train it is the greatest thing you can do for your children is to love your partner did you hear that the greatest thing you can do for your children is to love your partner your husband or your wife and build a home where they can see what heaven is like and be drawn to it these are not theories 57:09 34 years ago i made a decision before the lord that i would never preach what i didn't practice i would never tell another other people to climb a mountain i was not climbing myself even if i've not reached the peak i would say follow me as i follow christ so brothers and sisters we need 57:27 many many homes in india that demonstrate the glory of christ let's say lord i want to be one of them let's pray heavenly father thank you for the privilege we have of being witnesses for you not only in our personal 57:49 life but in our home give us grace to be the type of husbands and wives that you want us to be we humbly ask in jesus name amen okay then the best thing for me to do would be to expand on what i shared from 1 corinthians 13 because you remember what jesus told the 58:17 church in ephesus that was his bride he's a bride grooms the bride and says if i were to paraphrase it you make wonderful chapatis wonderful chicken curry you keep the house so neat you iron my clothes so well but you have left your love for me 58:38 that's that's what he's telling the bride the church in ephesus you do so many things and maybe a wife could tell her husband you provide for the house so well you work so hard you come earn money and buy everything that you need but you never express your affection for me 59:00 except only when you want to have sex you never express your affection with words and appreciation and it could be the other way around now husband has to tell his wife you do so many things so well you look after the children so well you keep the house so well you make make the meals on time but 59:17 you never express your affection let's learn to do that let's learn to appreciate one another jesus as i said appreciate it's a major aspect of love and i believe that if you're unable to express your appreciation for your wife or husband it proves that you're unable to express your appreciation for 59:41 jesus also what you call praise and worship is just a few empty words but really appreciating christ the more you appreciate christ and love him the more you will love your fellow believers number one your wife or your husband john says that if anyone says i love god and he doesn't love his brother he's a liar 1:00:04 i would say that if you say you love jesus with all your heart and you can't love your wife the name for you is not believer but liar liar it's a strong word john you the apostle of love that's right the apostle of love calls you a liar if you say that you love god with all your heart but you 1:00:23 can't love your wife it's very clear in the last verses of one john four so that's why one corinthians 13 is a very great passage you can have all types of gifts it says gifts to earn so much money and you're so smart and you're so clever whatever gifts you have first three verses but you don't have love you are 1:00:41 zero you provide for your home and you do this that and the other but you don't have love you're zero it's the most important thing i've been in homes where people are extremely poor they don't have much for their husband and wife who really love one another for many years of marriage it's great 1:01:04 i mean the other day i was at the airport to receive my wife a couple of days ago and i saw these old ladies coming out and some their husband or somebody would be there there's a smile at them and when i when my wife came out i just hugged her and cheek to cheek and all that which is strange for 1:01:32 indian culture right is it scriptural is it uh holy greet one another with a holy kiss we are such slaves to our culture let your wife be the wife of your youth the desire of your eyes to the end of your life 1:01:52 yeah you know let's look at this then again love is patient first of all and just look at these qualities this is number one don't forget that it's mentioned love is patient is number one and almost the same as the last one verse seven endures all things it's almost as though 1:02:14 both are it's like the one end and the other the other is tolerant and recognizes that a woman has varying emotional states unlike a man a man is more or less steady emotionally but a woman a woman has to go up and down and love is patient and part of this is to give your partner freedom to be 1:02:36 himself for herself you know i believe this is one of the ways in which we can build fellowship if we can get an interest in the thing that your husband or wife are doing i mean i used to watch my wife being uh fellowshipping with our children when they visited america 1:02:58 i mean she has zero interest i think in american football where they climb on top of each other and i don't know what they're doing trying to catch one ball and that is uh it's called american football none of you have seen it it's not worth seeing in any case but that's supposed to be 1:03:12 the craziest game they all watch in america just to throw one ball from one to the other they jump and so many have broken bones and necks and everything but it's the thing people watch but you know my boys used to come back from a very hectic days of work with their mind all 1:03:30 exhausted with computer work and then sit down and relax watching this i suppose it was a relaxation for them but my wife had no interest in it would sit and watch it with them just to have fellowship with the children to and i think she probably appreciates it now too 1:03:51 but i don't even know the rules of the game but i saw something there you know that when you begin to take part in an activity which you have absolutely zero interest in just for the sake of little fellowship with your children or your husband and wife in something which they have a great interest in 1:04:10 you really build fellowship and that's ultimately the thing that's important in a home fellowship so in both ways you know from husband to wife to husband that's think of that second love is kind which means i think there's a great need for respect for one's partner like 1:04:33 i heard of a wife who said if you can just speak to me as kindly as you speak to the strangers who come to the door that'll be that how do you speak to a stranger who comes to the door i mean if somebody knocks at the door even if it's the wrong person that came to the wrong house 1:04:51 hey what do you want you never speak like that but very often we you know we the ones we say the love we love the most are the ones very often we use the most hurtful words for we use kind words to strangers in a bus or in a train 1:05:17 where we hardly know we never even met them we'll never probably never see them again for the rest of our life we're so kind to them but when it comes to our wives we're so can be so rude to our husbands also wives can be very unkind to their husbands the way they speak there's a great need for repentance 1:05:34 i believe a lot of destruction of homes is done by our tongue death and life are in the power of the tongue so we need to learn how to be kind because we are not naturally like that we need to understand you know a wife is most of the time 1:05:53 like a prisoner within four walls of our house a routine is so monotonous and a husband comes back and doesn't recognize that or a wife doesn't recognize that my husband's had a tough day at work so there's a need for you know recognizing that the other person is 1:06:19 probably had a tough day just like you so be kind never compare your wife's cooking with your mother's cooking do you ever do that i've heard this said about adam and eve they had one big advantage which other 1:06:40 married couples don't have that she never had to hear how adam's mother cooked food and he never had to hear how many wonderful boyfriends she had before she met adam why can't we be like that so don't compare your wife's cooking with anybody 1:07:05 yeah love and it could also you know apply to being helpful with different things wherever you are able to some things you're not able to i don't help my wife with her cooking because it'll spoil the whole thing if i go in there and try to 1:07:20 help so sometimes the best way to help is to steer clear of areas where you have no clue what is to be done next love is not jealous verse 4 not possessive that she can't have freedom to have a few friends of her own 1:07:42 give freedom to your husband to meet with his friends sometimes for your wife to visit her parents don't be jealous and so possessive there's a jealousy there that can prevent you know when it says husbands be subject to your wives and wives be subject to one part of it is 1:08:03 that give that person room to move in her boundary and you in your boundary don't invade each other's boundary and occupy that country like all these invaders like the mongols and the the people who invaded india don't invade another territory which god has drawn 1:08:26 you know there's a verse in proverbs have you read it don't move the ancient landmarks that means these stones that are kept you know to mark a border of a property don't move them i would say that in relation to your wife also don't move them and say hey this 1:08:44 area is mine it's not yours god has drawn a prop area for your wife let her be there let her have some freedom god is a broad area for a husband let him have some freedom i believe that's important it's jealousy which prevents that another is number four don't does not brag is not arrogant i think very often that can 1:09:05 happen when a husband makes his wife feel small makes her feel that she's not as spiritual as he is or make your husband feel small that he's not as spiritual as you are or don't know the bible like you know it there's so many ways in which a one partner can make the other person feel small and 1:09:26 that's a form of bragging you know the wonderful thing about jesus is that the most sinful prostitutes and crooks could feel comfortable he never made anybody feel inferior to him even though he was almighty god the best person on earth was inferior to him 1:09:47 let's follow his example that you never make anybody feel inferior to you um we you know even in our relationships in the church i have tried my best to never make anybody feel inferior to me in any way young people i mean i 1:10:08 i have i love when children talk to me freely it's i don't mean your own children other people's if your own children talk to you freely that's great i want to ask you how freely do other people children talk to you maybe you make them feel so small they don't come anywhere near you maybe you 1:10:27 treat life treat your wife like that too you give her a inferiority complex by constant criticism you know you're not doing this properly you're not doing this properly it's it could be a husband where ultimately you could be like that wife who said to someone 1:10:50 my husband thinks there are only two people who are perfect in the world one is god and the other is i don't want to be himself because he acts like that you know criticizing everybody so that's what i mean by bragging and then number five is does not act unbecomingly 1:11:10 to be courteous is a christian characteristic and it's not something you switch on in public and switch off at home that is other children of adam do like that i mean they switch switch on this thing called curtsy in public when they come home they switch it off why is that i mean it's all right you can take off your 1:11:34 the better clothes that you wear when you're going out and dress in simpler clothes or in pajamas when you're at home but curtsy must never be switched off it's to be part of our nature to be courteous in kerala for example 1:11:54 most kerala even believers born again spiritual tongue speaking believers also have another tongue by which they call their wives eddie i don't know what they know what eddie means i don't know the right translation for english but something it's like a despise hey that'd be the closest i could translate 1:12:13 it in english uh it's not high it's hey okay so i was i have tried my best to teach people in our churches don't call your wife eddie and one husband said to me brother that is an expression of love 1:12:35 i said really why don't you allow her to call you also then you don't want her to love you you don't want her to call you in a loving way i said it's all hypocritical nonsense this type of justification i i said you can't don't even call your children 1:12:56 eddie ada no treat call them by some barren name like in malayalam mone mole now i was so delighted to see in one brother's house notice on this on the wall in handwritten nobody must call another person eddie ada in in this house great 1:13:17 it does something you know curtsy don't switch it off when you go home um well i'm very careful with that even with other people's children i even little boys and other when i go to conference and all i never call a small little boy i respect him there's a little boundary 1:13:37 around him which god has drawn he's got a dignity he's a human being created the image of god even if he's three years old and i want to respect that i want to tell you it's gone well with me when i respect other people god respects you okay the other thing is does not seek its own number the sixth point 1:13:59 love always seeks the good of the other person and finds out the need of the partners concerned about the other person so if your main aim in uh marriage i mean if your main aim in life is to be happy yourself you don't worry about the happiness of others i have one advice for you don't get married 1:14:23 because when you get married you'll have to be concerned about the happiness of the other person too not just your own ask yourself whether your actions and words are making other people happen your partner look at this lovely verse which jesus said is the in one sentence the sum and substance of 1:14:42 the whole teaching of the bible isn't that great to have the whole bible in one sentence matthew chapter 7 and verse 12 it says by the way the law and the prophets is an expression which jesus used to describe the old testament bible the law was the first five books and the prophets were the remaining 34 books 1:15:05 that was the only bible they had in those days so the phrase the law in the prophets means the bible so he said however you want people to treat you treat them in the same way for this is the message of the whole bible there it is the whole bible's got one message treat other people the way you want to be treated 1:15:30 if you don't want to be if you don't want people to insult your parents don't insult her parents or his parents if you want her to treat your mother kindly treat her mother kindly and vice versa treat people the way you want to be treated do you want people to forgive your mistakes we all make mistakes yes 1:15:56 then forgive the other person's mistakes what a wonderful verse for marriage especially you know to think of is this how i want to be treated then i want to treat the other person like that okay then number seven love is not provoked does not take into account a wrong suffered 1:16:20 he doesn't keep a record of all the wrongs done like somebody said love is a very poor mathematician you cannot keep an account of of the wrongs done do you keep an account of the wrongs done um you heard me say about that man who went to the marriage counselor and said 1:16:47 whenever my wife gets angry she becomes historical historical he said you mean hysterical he said no historical she remembers all the things that happened 25 years ago 24 years ago 23 years ago it's historical what do you do so i want to say even if you get hysterical don't get historical okay 1:17:09 does not remember a wrong done because god doesn't remember the wrongs we have done he says i will not remember them anymore and that's wonderful it says in lamentations 3 his mercies are new every morning it's almost that i look at it like this god looks at me every morning and says 1:17:32 you've never sinned in your whole life you've never sinned in your whole life and so today if you sin it'll be the first time i'm forgiving you that's what it means to have mercies that are new every morning i believe that that's how i'm justified 1:17:51 god declares me righteous because the blood of christ has blotted out my past he looks at me as if i've never sinned what what a it's like the clean feeling you get after you're washed away of the filth from your body from a good shower and feel fresh no sin 1:18:15 and now the lord says are you willing to treat your partner the way i treat you or do you want me in future to treat you the way you treat your partner yes god says if you can be historical with your partner i can be historical with you also don't 1:18:34 forget that and i can be historical for much longer than you can be with your partner do you want that i've noticed one thing through the years god treats us as we treat other people if you want god to be good to you be good to other people be good to the servants who work in your 1:18:55 house be good to them do you like to get a bonus from work give your servants an unexpected bonus sometimes i'm not preaching what i have not practiced every person who worked in my house will tell you that i fear god my christianity is not in the pulpit this is the very one percent of my christianity 1:19:19 standing up here 99 of it is elsewhere mostly in my home so remember this your public what you are in public is one percent 99 is what you're at home that's your christianity if it doesn't work there throw it away the garbage you got the wrong version so it doesn't take into account a wrong 1:19:41 suffer number eight does not rejoice in unrighteousness but rejoices with the truth that means you know we are not to ignore things that are wrong in the house but i say when you correct something in your wife or husband 1:20:01 make sure you spent enough time appreciating all the good that they have done before before you give that one word of correction so you rejoice in the truth i mean something wrong being done we have to correct it but correction must always be in the background of appreciation the background i 1:20:19 say is a blackboard if you don't have a blackboard that means you spent so many years never appreciating then don't correct don't use a chalk to correct and there's no blackboard the blackboard is appreciation have you done that for a number of years by all means now use the 1:20:37 chalk and write something i tell you your wife or husband will accept it and one or two bits of advice don't sow seed when there's a storm got it no farmer sows a seed when there is a storm and when there's a storm in the house 1:21:01 cover your head and pray but don't try to sow seeds it'll all get blown away pray that this storm will pass and make sure it really passed check the weather report and then 1:21:22 and then so there's a time to correct also there must be appreciation okay then number nine covers all things you know love covers a multitude of sins as i said that is what i said earlier that we never expose expose our partners weaknesses in public never when i mean when i say never never except when you 1:21:47 want help from an older person who you know will not gossip who can advise you and what to do there's nothing wrong in going for advice to seek counsel from godly people is a very godly thing to do to humbly acknowledge it's like going to a teacher and saying sir i don't know how to do this problem can 1:22:06 you please how do mathematics this problem i don't know how to do it can you help me there's nothing wrong in it so you need help seek advice but cover sins believes all things i've mentioned that before trust your partner put the best interpretation a little bit of advice when you see something don't 1:22:25 judge by what your eyes see or your ears hear but put the best interpretation that's part of believes all things there may be a better reason than that maybe i'm just the devil just feeding me with suspicion with the best interpretation hopes all things which means i remember once when i was thinking this many 1:22:46 years ago i was thinking of a particular brother about giving some responsibility and i said ah but he was like this five years ago i can't trust him and immediately the lord spoke to me what about you how were you five years ago do you want people to remember you like you were five years ago and i say no 1:23:03 lord i know the days when cfc when i was such a legalist i i preached the same truth but with a different tone of voice and a different spirit because i was young struggling through legalism struggling through law to find grace and so i don't want people to remember me like i was in those days 1:23:23 a lot of tapes of my those messages way back then which truth-wise it's absolutely correct but not spoken in the right way that's why we don't put them on the web for other people to hear so the lord said to me if you don't want people to if you think you've improved in the last five years 1:23:40 consider the possibility that that person's improved too don't think of him as he was five years ago don't think of your wife or husband as he was she was even last year could have improved hopes all things and finally love endures all things love never fails that means it holds on to the end 1:24:02 let me say this finally a happy marriage does not depend entirely on finding the right person you know how much effort people make before marriage to find the right person a happy marriage depends on being the right person not just finding the right person 1:24:26 a marriage a wedding is an event and a marriage is an achievement there's a lot of difference any idiot can go to get married but to build a happy home requires a godly man and woman and i pray that all of you will be there in the days to come praise the lord let's bow our heads and give thanks heavenly father 1:24:55 we thank you for helping us in these sessions to understand something of truth in your ways please help us to really cry out to you for our homes that we shall build homes that honor you and 1:25:20 please help us each one in jesus name amen
