0:00 Девушки отдыхают 0:30 Девушки отдыхают 1:00 But the testimony of the home Is not Was not considered a very important thing Under the old covenant It was the total testimony of the nation of Israel And all that God said Was he wanted godly children But once we move into the new covenant 1:19 There's a tremendous emphasis on the home Jesus very often went to homes And the most wonderful example of all It says in Ephesians 5 That the relationship between Christ and the church Is to be demonstrated 1:40 In homes Do you know that as a husband and wife You're supposed to demonstrate To the world around you The relationship between Christ and the church That's in Ephesians chapter 5 You know that passage very well Verse 23 onwards 2:00 How a husband must relate to his wife Exactly like Christ relates to the church And how a wife must relate to her husband Exactly like The church relates to Christ And there's a lot of misunderstanding here 2:20 A lot of false understanding You know I Went to many many churches in my life And throughout all these places And many different churches in India That I attended Never once in all my life In all those churches Did I attend a meeting 2:41 Where the meeting was for Husbands and wives And parents Instructing them In our churches It's become a regular feature In every conference To have meetings for husbands and wives Some of you who have only grown up in the church 3:00 Take 101 things for granted You know many times I wish That children who have grown up in our church Would go outside And be in another church for two years They'll come back with such fantastic gratitude Even some grown up people 3:15 Here They need once in a while To go for two years somewhere else Sometimes when I've had to discipline somebody In this church in past years I've told them Stay away from the church for two months And they've realized what they've missed 3:33 Two months is enough We must never take The church and all that we receive in the church For granted As though we deserve these things God has revealed to us Some of the greatest truths That in most other churches 3:54 They never hear There are missing messages Concerning the Christian home And if you take it lightly I want to tell you You're going to be the loser It's the ones who are really grateful And thankful for the church Who build the best homes 4:11 And if you're not building a good home Begin to ask yourself Are you thankful For the church Do you teach your children To be thankful for the church All of us want our children To grow up well Sure That doesn't mean anything 4:29 Even the godless people in the world Want their children to grow up well That doesn't mean you're a godly person But When you don't criticize people in your home When you don't criticize other members of the church In your home 4:41 But Seek to Teach your children to value them That's the way your children will grow up If they sense And you don't have to speak anything You know Children have got a sense To pick up what their parents feel And I've seen that through the years here 4:59 To different people Some who are still here And some who have left At least in Bangalore I've seen why some children In the days When they were in In their home Do not develop The way they should Because they sensed Something in their parents 5:19 Of a critical attitude Towards either the elders of the church Or some people in the church And you may have said nothing The children picked it up Who's the loser? Not the church You Aren't you the loser When your children are not 5:38 Wholehearted disciples? Is it God's will That any of our children Should be half-hearted? Is it God's will That any of our children Should be unconverted? No If they are My dear brothers and sisters Be like the thief on the cross 5:59 And say I am to blame Don't blame it on circumstances And situations And other things You perhaps Have been critical Judgmental Either both husband and wife Or one of them Now I'll tell you something Every situation can be redeemed 6:21 That's the good news Whatever your failure may be in the past It can be resolved and solved But Only if you first Acknowledge your iniquity If you try to cover it up You know there are some people Who do something wrong 6:36 To you And they'll never come and apologize They'll come to you and say Oh hello Hello Everything is nice They act as if nothing is wrong Such people have never settled the matter Because they never apologized For the wrong they did 6:49 And just because they act nice And the other person is gracious enough To act nice to you Doesn't mean it's settled A hundred years later When you stand at the judgment seat of Christ It'll come up Say You never apologize 7:01 Oh but we behave nicely Yeah yeah yeah But you never apologized For the wrong you did Acknowledge your iniquity Just because somebody else Is gracious enough To overlook and forgive you Doesn't mean That Everything is okay 7:16 God helps us When he sees That we humble ourselves Like the thief on the cross And say I am to blame Otherwise like Adam We cover it all up And pretend that everything is okay Now I just want to say Those words in introduction 7:30 Because that was the problem With our forefather Adam He couldn't take the blame For his own sin Jesus on the other hand Took the blame For the sins of the whole world Be like Jesus Not like Adam That's one of the Fundamental principles 7:45 Of a marriage If you're a father And you made a mistake Tell your children I'm sorry for what I did That was my mistake And submission Is something that Begins with God And so the relationship You know many In our We are 8:01 Some parts of our Bible Are torn out Because of We are influenced By our culture So we want to think Of the husband And the wife And children These are three things We want to think about The first Law of God Or principle of God 8:21 In marriage Is The one commandment In the Bible That is written Before sin came Into the world You know when sin Came into the world It was Genesis chapter 3 But there's only one Commandment in the Bible Only one Given before sin 8:39 Came into the world And that's not the Commandment to Adam Because that doesn't Apply to us There's another Commandment for us The only commandment In the Bible Before sin came Into the world And that commandment Is in the 8:51 Genesis 2 24 Which says A man shall leave His father and mother And be joined To his wife And they shall Become one flesh And that was written At a time When Adam did not Have a father and mother So who was written For it 9:10 It wasn't written For Adam It was written For us Therefore shall a man Leave his father And mother And cleave unto His wife And In Psalm 45 And Verse 9:32 10 It says Listen O daughter To the wife Give attention Forget your people And your father's house So will your bridegroom The king Desire your beauty So there's a word For Men And there's a word For women Forget your father's house 9:51 That doesn't mean Don't care for your parents It means Forget your attachment To them now It doesn't mean A husband should not Care for his parents It means You should leave them Emotionally Be attached to your wife When it says 10:06 To the wife Forget your father's house It doesn't mean You don't care for them It means You're now not Attached to them You're attached to your You know I'll tell you this If you don't Obey God's laws You're You're gonna 10:17 Not have a proper Foundation for your marriage And a lot of Unhappy homes In India particularly Are because People don't Obey this law In western countries They leave their father And mother pretty early Long before they're married 10:32 But they have other problems Which cause divorce there That we come to later But in India One of the first problems Is that When people get married There's very little Attachment to one another It's probably because A lot of marriages 10:50 Are arranged But arranged Or not arranged Once you're married You Your wife must be first Not your parents Your parents may have More wisdom And it's nothing wrong In consulting them But decisions Must be taken Between you and your wife 11:06 Between you and your husband And you have to say Now I'm If you don't start Day one From day one Like that Now I'm not attached To my parents I love them I care for them If they are in need I'll help them And if they are in 11:20 Financial need You must Send them money They took care of you When you were in Financial need As a baby And as a student It's absolutely Righteous for you To take care of them When they are old And they are In financial need 11:33 Sure But other than that Your attachment Must not be to them Your attachment Must be to your wife And sisters If you're married Your attachment Must be to your husband Now you can listen to this But do you see a lack In your own life 11:52 Do you feel that You've not done that So far Do you feel that Your wife feels That you're more attached To your parents Than to her Does your husband Feel that you're more Attached to your parents Sisters Than to him How do they sense that 12:13 They sense that You can theoretically Say no no no I'm attached to you But it's not a question Of theory It's a question Of an actual practice Is your husband First In your thinking Is your wife First It must be like that 12:29 In human relationships And the reason why It's not like that Let me tell you this The reason why It is not like that Is because most Even Christians in India Do not fear God Enough To obey his laws When I got married The reason I 12:51 Decided that I'd be Emotionally attached To my wife More than my parents Was because I feared God And I respected his laws And I want to say I've been married 38 years And I'm very happily married You obey God's laws It only goes well 13:08 With you There's a verse In the Old Testament I think it's Deuteronomy 4 Which says God says Oh Oh Can you imagine God saying Oh Oh that my people Would keep my laws So that it can go well With them It's the cry Of a father 13:25 Seeing his children Mess up their life And saying I wish they would Listen to me I wish they would Know that I As God Who ordained marriage Know better than them What is good for them That they won't be So stupid To think that 13:40 They know better than me When I tell them Leave father and mother It's for their good When I tell them Forget your father's house It's for their good But they are so stupid And proud They think they know Better than me God says 13:53 Oh I feel sad for them Because I know They're going to Mess up their life And once you've Messed up your life It's so difficult To restore it There's a saying In the world Prevention is better Than cure It's always better 14:07 To prevent Something Than after Creating a mess To try and solve it So right from The beginning Those of you Who are newly married Are extremely lucky To hear these things From day one Be attached to your wife Be attached to your husband 14:20 More than to your relatives By all means Care for them Help them But Remember Jesus For 30 years He was at home And one day He left home It was like getting married To his father now And then when his mother Came in the marriage of Cana 14:37 He said Woman what have I got to do With you His mother was Absolutely shocked Is this the one Who always said Yes mummy Yes mummy Yes mummy For 30 years Now turning around And saying Woman what have I To do with you Jesus is our example 14:55 You can't be more Spiritual than Jesus Put God first You'll have a very Happy marriage If you obey his laws In Genesis chapter 1 Before Genesis Genesis chapter 2 The earlier part of Genesis chapter 2 You see that God 15:15 Made Adam and Eve Separately He could have made them Together He could have made Two lumps of mud Made two Man and woman And breathed into Both of them Immediately they see Each other Why didn't he do it Like that He made Adam 15:30 All alone And you know He made Eve Some hours later Because Adam After he was made He had to name All the animals And birds Can you imagine How long that took I mean he must have Done it at pretty high speed Because he was such 15:44 An intelligent man But still it took Some hours It's only after that That Eve was created So during those hours When Adam was alone Without a wife Who did he have Holy God And God was trying To tell Adam You know Your number one 16:02 Necessity in life Is me I'm your number One necessity Never forget that And value me More than your wife And that's important And then Some hours later He made Eve And she was also Alone With him 16:23 With God For some time Before God took her To Adam And said She never even knew There's such a person Called Adam So the lesson We learned from that Is God wants to have A personal relationship With you The first thing In the morning 16:43 He wants to meet with you Before you meet your wife First thing in the morning Sisters He wants to meet with you Before you meet your husband Not just In terms of time But in terms of Priority Is more important That in my priority 16:58 God is first Then my husband Then my wife Then parents Relatives After that So it's all a question Of priority You know We don't put the roof Underneath and the foundation On top Don't do that It'll be an upside down house 17:16 And many homes Are upside down Because God is not on top God is in some corner Parents are on top In between Other husband and wife It's all upside down In our homes In many many homes But then you'll have An upside down relationship 17:29 But if you follow God's laws Of building the home It's like building a house Put the foundation underneath And the roof on top So put priorities Put that which is Most important And you have to leave Before you can cleave 17:45 And if the leaving Of parents is improper The cleaving Will also be improper Remember that If you've made a mistake In the past Now is the time To rectify it It's not too late You can start now And say well I want Jesus to be 18:01 Between me and my husband Me and my wife And I want to have A very happy relationship I also want to say this Now I want to say Something about The leadership of the head The husband is The head of the wife We need to understand 18:16 How that is Like someone has said God took Eve From a rib From Adam's side Not from his head Not from a bone In his head To rule over him Not from a bone In his feet So that he rules Over her But from a rib From his side 18:34 So that she will be Close to his side Close to his heart Equal to him And yet he is the head How is he the head Please turn to 1 Corinthians chapter 11 If you want to understand If you want to understand The headship of the husband 18:48 You have to get rid of Indian culture From your mind And I will tell you That is much more difficult Than you think It is not easy To get rid of Our culture We have a lot of Influence of our culture In our thinking And I tell you 19:06 That is what will Destroy your marriage Maybe you have seen Your parents How they are related To each other Please don't follow them One of the great areas Where I tell Our generation of people Not to follow Your parents 19:19 Is particularly In the way You bring up Your children Most of you Will have to say Your dad Was not your friend He was a person To be respected And revered at home But not your friend Not one with whom You could joke and laugh 19:34 And with whom You could talk about Sexual matters And all that How many of you Can say you talked To your dad About sexual matters And laughed and joked With him Maybe laughed and joked With some of your dads But sexual matters 19:45 You don't talk to them To whom do you talk About sexual matters To your dirty friends In college Don't continue that Into the next generation Parents must be friends To their children If their children Have sexual problems 20:00 They should talk to you That's how God intended it That's one example Of culture We have a culture Which has not taught us How father and son Should be Fathers don't put Their arms around Their son After they are A certain age 20:19 They put them around When they're one year old Two year old And all that But once they I'll put my arms Around my son Even if they're 60 years old Why not I'm not an Indian I'll tell you that I'm an Indian second I'm a Christian first 20:32 I'll get rid of I'm not western No I'm an Indian But I'm an Indian second I'm a Christian first And I've got rid of Everything in my culture Which is contrary to scripture And that's why My personal life is happy My ministry is happy 20:48 My home is happy I'm happy with my children My children are happy with me Because I got rid of Everything that's contrary To God's word I believe there are Many of you Who are not willing To give up Your cultural attitudes 21:00 You want to please Your relative Please your parents Brother forget about Being a Christian then Jesus said If you want to follow me You've got to hate Father, mother, brother, sister And all those things Forget it Okay 21:12 1 Corinthians 11 It says I want you to know this Verse 3 Here is the Principle of headship How is the husband The head of the wife Christ is the head of a man Man is the head of a woman And God is the head of Christ Okay 21:32 The husband is the head of the wife From this verse Like the father Is the head of Christ Got it Husbands Listen carefully You must relate to your wife Exactly like the father Relates to Jesus Christ It says there in that verse 21:50 Are the father and the son Equal? Yes or no? Why are your husband so quiet? Because you know What's the next question I'm going to ask you Are the father and son equal? Are you and your wife equal? Are you and your wife equal? 22:12 Do you see how powerful culture is? It doesn't come out of your mouth It's stuck somewhere in the throat You know it is the truth But you won't acknowledge it She's not inferior to you If you say that your wife Is inferior to you 22:28 You are a Jehovah's Witness Saying that Jesus was inferior to God the father You are in the same condition It's serious It's very serious Many of you I know Treat your wives Like an inferior Person Who is supposed to do 22:44 All the dirty jobs And you are supposed to Be the Maharaja Sitting there That's not Christianity Can you imagine God Sitting as a Maharaja And making Jesus Do all the dirty jobs No That's exactly Next time you think Of how you are to relate 23:01 To your wife Think of the father Treating the son Don't think of some Dictator in the world How he treats his subjects That's a heathen concept As God is the head of Christ The man is the head of the woman And not only that 23:16 This is In 1 Corinthians 11 Relates to the church Do you know The tremendous power Of Heathen culture In the church Where women are treated As inferior The brethren assemblies They don't allow The women to pray Somebody said 23:36 That's because The church is the only place They can keep their women quiet So they Don't allow them To dock there Do you believe In the church Women are equal to men Brothers Will you practice it In your churches The rest of you 23:57 Get rid of brethren culture Get rid of In heathen culture As God Is the head of Christ Man is the head of woman This is 1 Corinthians 11 And he goes on To say further down I'm giving you These instructions About how to do things 24:17 In the church Verse 16 onwards He's talking about The church He's talking about The breaking of bread The wailing of the head It's all for the church Man is the head of the woman In the church Just like God Is the head of Christ 24:28 What place does Jesus have in heaven Is he kicked into Some corner In some servant's quarters Is he talking to Shut his mouth And sit quietly Why do so many brothers Make their Make sisters Shut their mouth And sit quietly 24:44 They are influenced By culture Not by the Bible They think Oh we follow the Bible Rubbish You follow Indian culture Say that You follow brethren culture And do you know How much our churches Have suffered Because of that 25:02 Many of our young sisters Have gone astray Because older sisters Were suppressed In your churches And you brothers Are guilty of that And you are Answerable to God Repent It's like God Pushing Christ Into a corner And say we don't want 25:19 You to open your mouth Here And you haven't Realized the seriousness Of your sin Because you haven't Read the Bible You were influenced By Indian culture And brethren culture Who is suffering The young girls In your assembly 25:34 Are suffering Women who could have Been reached in your area Are suffering Because you kept Them out shut They can't do anything Because you The great Maharaja Wanted to rule Please humble yourself Obey the word of God What is headship then? 25:55 Was the father The head of Christ? Absolutely God's word says so Jesus voluntarily Chose To submit to the father It doesn't mean He kept his mouth shut He was speaking all the time But he was submissive And so must a woman 26:10 Be submissive In the new testament Acts 2 17 Is very clear That your sons and daughters Will both prophesy God wants men and women To open their mouth And encourage And bless other people In the church And we need to see 26:22 That much more It's a battle You know When you try to get out Of an old habit That you practiced For 20 years It may take a long time To get out of it And some of you May try for 2-3 months And give up And switch back To Indian culture 26:36 And brethren culture You'll destroy your church You'll limit your church Your children will suffer Mark my words Encourage your sisters To be filled with The Holy Spirit And to prophesy According to the new testament Don't lead them back 26:52 Into the old covenant This is one of the Missing messages In our churches Forget the missing messages In the rest of Christianity This is the missing thing In our churches We need to hear that And it needs to start at home 27:04 Where the women are treated As equals At the same time The husband is still the head Just like Jesus Is my head Not only like the father And Christ But it also says Like Christ and man There are two pictures here 27:26 God is the head of Christ 1 Corinthians 11-3 And Christ is the head of man Man is the head of woman In other words My relationship with my wife Is dependent on my Accepting the headship Of Christ in my life If I ask my wife 27:41 To do something Which the Bible Tells her not to do For example Tell a lie Please tell a lie here She has every right To say No darling I won't do that Because your head Is Christ It's Christ Who has appointed you As head of the woman 28:01 And you tell your wife To do something Which Christ Forbids She goes directly to Christ And says Sorry I don't do it If your husband Is a non-Christian Who tells you To worship an idol You go to Christ And say Sorry I don't do that 28:16 Remember that The husband Is not the ruler Of the universe Sorry I'm sorry to disappoint Some of you husbands But you've got to Recognize that fact Christ is the one Who's got all authority In heaven and earth Not you And if you wonder 28:30 Why your wife Is not subject to you Ask yourself Whether you are Subject to Christ You want your wife To be totally Obedient to you Ask yourself Are you totally Obedient to Christ First You order your wife Around I hope you obey 28:46 Christ's orders In your own life We are such Evil people We want other people To obey us But we don't Obey the authority Over us I want to ask you Brothers who've got Elders in your church Do you obey your elders Do you respect them 28:58 No No wonder your wife Is the head of your house You are not subject To any authority yourself I've seen homes In our churches It is crystal clear to me That the wife Is the head of that home The husband is a meek man Just does what his wife 29:19 Jezebel Says We have a number of Jezebels in our churches It's very sad They don't realize They are destroying The effectiveness Of their home For God I won't tell you Sisters If you try to boss Your wife Your name Is Jezebel 29:39 Yeah And your husband Will be absolutely Within his right To call you Darling Jezebel At least from today Onwards I give all of you Brothers the authority To call your wife Jezebel If she runs your home I don't run 30:01 Christ's home I'll tell you that I do not run Christ's Life He runs my life Because he's my head And when a woman Tries to run Her husband's life It's like me Trying to run Christ's life Hey say Lord You better listen to me 30:22 Who do you think you are Can you imagine You talking to Jesus Like that Who do you think you are When a woman Talks to her husband Like that That's it Can you imagine The stupidity And the evil Of that But Let me say What does it mean 30:41 For a husband To be the head It's not being A dictator It's recognizing Your wife As an equal It's something To Christ As your head Think of all this First Before you Decide to be The head Of your home And Like Jesus Leads the church 31:01 From the front Jesus said I'm a shepherd Not a hireling The husband Must lead The wife From the front If your wife Loses her temper Gets angry Don't shout at her And say Why are you getting angry That is like A hireling 31:18 Whipping her From the back No Go in front And be a shepherd And show by your life How you never get angry And say Follow me Not with words But by your example Jesus never says Come on Move on He doesn't kick us From the back 31:35 The good shepherd Goes in front of the sheep A good husband Must follow Christ's example And be the leader In the home Go ahead Be an example If you want your home To be tidy You be tidy first Don't tell your wife To do this 31:50 That and the other I mean There may be gifts You don't have Like cooking You can't cook Okay But you must be An example In character I'm not talking About gifts Of keeping accounts Or cooking like that I'm talking about 32:02 Character You must be An example To your wife By going ahead As a shepherd And she follows That's the type Of headship Where she can see Your example And follow it In meekness And humility Yet Holding authority Jesus was the 32:19 Humblest person That walked On the face Of the earth But boy He was the Head of his Disciples There was no Doubt about that If you saw The crowd Of those 13 People sitting In some Hillside In Galilee Jesus and his Twelve disciples 32:35 You walked Into that crowd Not knowing Who they are In five seconds You would know Who is the Leader You know There are some Churches Who talk about The body of Christ They say Well You come to Our church You don't know 32:49 Who is the Leader Well There is Something wrong With your Church Then In a True Christian Church You recognize To whom God has Given leadership The elders Are the Leaders They are Appointed By God As overseers And the Bible says 33:05 In Hebrews 13 17 You got to Submit To your Leaders So people Who artificially Try to build The body Saying oh Everybody does Everything they Like That's not The church That's a Confusion And a Chaos So the Husband Must be 33:18 The leader Of the House If A person Comes to Your House They must Know That the Husband Is the Head And it's Wrong for A wife To do All the Talking I'll never Forget many Years ago I went To a Home And We Sat I sat There for 33:37 About One Hour Sixty Minutes Husband And wife Were both Believers The wife Spoke for About Fifty Four Minutes I Spoke About Four Minutes And the Husband Spoke Two Minutes We Didn't Gossip Talking Good Things But she Did all 33:54 The Talking We Did all The Listening I Never Said Anything Because I Don't Judge People They Don't Have Light They Had Newly Come To The Church I Went To The Same House Years Later It Was Exactly The Opposite That Wife Had 34:13 Learned To Listen That Is The Power Of The Teaching In The Church She Became A Much Better Woman Did She Sin Earlier No She Didn't Have Light I Hope You Get Light You Know To Be The I I'm Not Saying You Shouldn't Talk But 34:32 When People Come To Your Home Let Them Recognize Who Is The Head It's Very Very Important Who Is The Shepherd In This Home Who Is The Head In This Home Who Is The Leader And The Best Persons To Ask Are Your Children Fathers 34:50 Go And Ask Your Children Son Tell Me Honestly Who Do You Think Is The Head Of The Home And Don't Be Afraid I Won't Get I Won't Spank You If You Tell Me The Truth You May Get A Surprise If You Let Them Speak The Truth They 35:03 Say Daddy You Are A Nice Person But I Think You Let Be A Christian Home Be The Shepherd Be The Leader Like Jesus Christ Not A Dictator Then The 35:26 Head As A Head The Bible Says It's Like The Head Of The Body The Head Recognizes Listen To This Very Carefully Husbands The Head Recognizes Its Helplessness Without The Body Can The Head Do Anything If It Doesn't Have A 35:41 Hand Doesn't Have Eyes Doesn't Have Ears Head Means The Brain By The Way Can The Brain Do Anything Without Eyes Without Hands Without Legs Without Nothing What's You're Just Sitting A Brain By Itself Over There You Can Put 35:53 It In A Museum Are You That Type Of Head You Don't Care For Hands Legs Eyes Anything Just The Brain In A Museum Don't Be A Head Like That Recognize Your Helplessness Without Your Why That's A Head I'm A Head But I Can't 36:11 Do Anything Without Hands Legs Eyes And My Wife Is My Hands And Legs And Eyes And Ears And Everything Where To Work Together That's Why It's So Important That You Need To Value Your Wife And Care For Her Shall I Tell You 36:28 Something About How Our Human Physiology Works I'm Not A Doctor But I'm Married To One I Know A Little Bit When A Mosquito Bites You On Your Left Hand How Does Your Right Hand Come Immediately And Whack It Off Within 36:48 Less Than A Second Do You Know How It Happens There's A Signal That Goes Up From Your Hand Up To The Head I Mean The Brain Hey Mosquito Is With Me And The Hand The Brain Sends A Message To The Other Hand Whack It Off What 37:09 I'm Trying To Say Is The Head Is So Sensitive That Even A Mosquito Buds He's Alert To It Is That The Type Of Head You Are I Don't Mean An Mosquito But That When She Has A Small Problem A Mosquito Bite Is A Small Thing It's 37:26 One Of The Smallest Things Are Are You Sensitive To The Little I Don't Mean Where A Lion Ate Up Her Leg Or Something Like That I Don't Mean Such Big Things But I'm Saying A Small Little Thing That Affected Your Wife Do 37:46 You Feel It That Shows How Close Your Connection Is Now You Know For Example If There Was A Lack Of Connection Between The Head And The Hand Because Of Paralysis Of Some Nerves Of Death Of Some Nerves Like People When They 38:03 Have Leprosy A Hundred Mosquitoes Can Bite Them A Rat Can Come And Eat Of The Hand And The Head Is Fast Asleep The Rat Is Eat Of The Hand And You Know There Are Some Or He Is Having Wonderful Fellowship With The Brothers 38:22 Somewhere In Some Church And A Rat Is Eating Of His Hand It's Absolutely True Complete Insensitivity To The Feelings Of The Wife What Type Of Head Is That That's Like A Head In A Museum Brain Kept In A Little Box In The 38:41 Museum For Everybody To Admire This Is Brain That's Not The Type Of Head Ship A Headship Is Sensitive And Jesus Denied Himself Christ Loved The Church And Gave Himself For It And That's How A Husband Must Care For His Wife 39:00 And Be Willing To Wash Her Feet Do All Types Of Dirty Jobs For Her Share The Burden Of Looking After The Children Share Everything With Her Jesus Came To The Church And Said All That I Have Is Yours Jesus Has A With Me I 39:19 Have A Joint Account With My Wife All That I Have Is Yours It's It's A You Know When You Are A Head Like This Your Wife Will Rejoice To Submit To You Just Like We Rejoice To Submit To Jesus Christ Because 39:39 He's So Understanding And So Compassionate Do You Ever Want To Take Over The Head Ship From Christ Anybody Who Wants To Take Over The Headship From Christ No Neither Will Your Wife Ever Want To Take Over The Headship From 39:51 You If You Are A Responsible Husband Who Is Sensitive To Her Needs Being Being Being Being A Shepherd Not To Find Fault Without Criticizing Her This That And The Other But Help Her Okay The Submission Of The Body The Wife 40:07 Is To Be Like The Church Submitted To Christ Like The Body Is To The Head You Know The It's Not Exactly Like The Body Because In This Sense Because The Body Doesn't Have Any Will Of Its Own When I When My Brain Tells A Hand 40:22 To Do Something It Automatically Does It But It's More A Picture Like Christ And Me The Lord Tells Me To Do Something Christ Loved Me He Tells Me To Do Something But He Gives Me The Freedom To Say Yes Or No You Know That 40:38 Sometimes You Say No And Who Is The Loser You But There's One Difference That Your Husband Is Not Perfect When Christ Tells Me To Do Something It's A Perfect Person Telling Me To Do Something And You Need Not Have Any Doubt 40:49 About Obeying Him But When You When Your Husband Tells You To Do Something Remember That Is Not A Perfect Person It's An Imperfect Person And Therefore It's Not Exactly Like We Submit To Christ Because There God Has Given 41:03 You As Helper Can Take Decisions You Are Like The Elders In Your Home Like A Church Has Got Two Elders Husband And Wife Are The Elders Of Your Children And Like I Said 41:23 Yesterday Two Elders Balance Out Each Other Why Did God Give Barnabas To Paul And Paul To Barnabas Because They Were Balancing Each Other There Was Grace And Truth Together There And When God Gives A Husband To Each Other 41:39 It Is So That They Can Balance Out Each Other It Is Like Taking A Photograph Of A Building From The Front Side There And A Photograph Of This Building From The Back Side You Would Get Two Completely Different Pictures But 41:54 When You Put Both Of Them Together That You Get The Full Picture Of The House You Know That They Say That If You Had Only One Eye You Won't Be Able To See In Three Dimensions You Will Be Able To See In Two Dimensions It 42:08 Two Eyes That Help You To See In Three Dimensions And So A Man Who Does Not Ask His Wife Help Is Like A One Eyed Man He Can See But There Tremendous Limitation In What You Be Able To See If On The Other Hand You Recognize 42:28 Your Wife Contribution She Can Give You Slightly Different Your Eyes If Both Eyes Were Here You Wouldn't Get The Same Three Dimensional Vision Your Other Eye Has To Be A Little Away And Your Wife Has To See Things From A 42:41 Slightly Different Perspective Than You Then You Get A Three Dimensional Picture Of The Problem And Of The Solution Encourage Your Wife To See Things From Her Thing Those Husbands Who Force Their Wives To Think Like 43:01 Them Are Going To Miss The Total Picture God Has Made Her Different God Has Made Her A Helper Different From You So That She Can Present Her View And You Present Yours You Put It Together And You Pray Before God And As You 43:17 Weigh Those Things Together Before God Because She Is An Equal Heir With You On The Throne Of The Grace Of Life 1 Peter 3 Says That Ultimately You Come To A Decision Which Is Good I Can Think Of Many Decisions That My Wife 43:35 And I Have Taken Through The Years For Our Children And Our Home And I So Thankful That I Didn't Take Them All Myself I Think My Home Would Have Been A Mess If I Done That So Many Things I Can Think Of Where I Thought We 43:48 Should Do It Some Way And I Consulted With Her And She Had A Different View Would Put Our Views Together And We Did It In A Different Way I Didn't Give Up My Headship But I Recognize That I Can't Do Things Without The Body 43:59 The Brain Doesn't Give Up Its Position As The Brain Just Because It Says To The Hand I Just To Have Sex Not Just To Cook Your Food Or Wash Your 44:19 Clothes But Much More Important Than All Those Things To Be A Partner For Life Together So Your Wife Must Be Like A Lover You Know You Must Read Song Of Solomon I Encourage All Of You Husbands And Wives Read Song Of Solomon 44:36 Together And If You Are Really Freed From Indian Culture Husband Should Read The Wife Should Read The Bride Part To Each Other It's Really Exciting I Tell You That I Don't See Any Excitement We Are Still Bound By Indian 44:53 Culture Okay It'll Go Just Give Us Time It's In Scripture Why Is It When You Open The Bible Right In The Middle You Come Into Song Of Solomon Because God Wanted That To Be The Relationship Between A Husband And The Bride 45:13 As She Leans Upon Her Beloved And Walks Through Life It's A Picture Of How The Wife Lives In Constant Fellowship With Her Husband And Walks Through Life Like That Lovers I am his and he is mine. Just like we sing to the Lord. 45:31 That's the relationship you should have with your husband. And as I said, your husband may be wrong in many areas. He's imperfect. And it's more difficult when a husband is imperfect. But the Bible says very clearly in 1 Peter 3 45:48 that if your husband is disobedient to God's word, you wives win him. Don't win him by preaching to him. It says win him by your behavior. It's very clear. 1 Peter 3, 1 says win him by your behavior. Not by your preaching. 46:05 Win him by your behavior. That means as you conduct yourself respectfully because when they observe your pure, respectful behavior and not your preaching, boy, you'll win them. Do you feel that your husband is disobedient 46:25 in some area? You find it's difficult to submit to him? How do a lot of women submit to bosses in their office who are so evil? How many women that are working in offices today and the bosses are all so wicked but they submit 46:45 to imperfect people? Why is it only at home you can't submit to an imperfect husband? And remember, your husband, when he goes to work, he has to submit to an imperfect boss there. That guy's not perfect. You think your husband's boss 46:58 is a wholehearted believer? You've got to be crazy. He's not. He's a godless atheist perhaps. But your husband has to submit to him. He yells at your husband and threatens him and all that. He submits because the Bible says 47:13 you've got to submit to authority. I mean, he can do that to work. Can't you submit to an imperfect husband? In wisdom. I'm not saying you've got to do anything wrong or evil. And you should not allow somebody to destroy 47:26 your personality. God has given you a personality. Don't let him destroy it. So I'm not, you need to understand what I'm saying. It's very easy for these things to be misunderstood when you allow Indian culture to determine 47:38 what I'm saying. Let me tell you the story of a man who got married and his wife was a believer and he was not a believer. And one of the first things he told her was to come with me to the cinema. 47:58 Some dirty movie. And of course she didn't want to go but she was wise. She said, okay, I'll come with you. And they sat through that two-hour movie and she sat through the whole thing with her eyes closed praying. And every time 48:19 there was some exciting scene there he would nudge her as if she was passed to sleep. She didn't see a single thing in that movie theater. When he went back he said to her, I'll never take you to a movie again. 48:39 Was she wise? Did she rebel? Wives, be wise. Wisdom is greater than strength. Have you heard the old story of the sun and the wind had a competition? Children's story? I love to tell that story. 49:01 The sun and the wind had a competition once to see who was more powerful. So how to find out? He said, there's a man walking on that road with a coat. Let's see who can get him to take his coat off. So the sun said to the wind, 49:17 you try first. And the wind blew and blew to pull off his coat. But the more the wind blew, the more the man hugged his coat tight to him. The more the wind blew, the more tight he put it around him. The wind said, I give up. 49:32 The sun said, okay, let me try. And the sun became hotter and hotter and hotter and hotter and hotter and he took off his coat. Wisdom is better than strength. It's in the Bible, in the book of Ecclesiastes. Wisdom is more powerful 49:49 than strength. Warm your wife with your love and you'll get her to do more than by shouting and yelling at her like the wind. Warm your husband with your love and he will give you the desires of your heart. I mean, that's not 50:06 exactly in scripture, but you can win him. Wives, you want something? Warm him. Put your arm around him and don't just yell at him all the time. You'll get a lot more things out of your wife if you warm him like the sun 50:22 instead of blowing at him like the wind as soon as he comes through the door. Simple. So, the wife is called to be a helper to her husband. God said, I want Eve to be a helper. You sisters, did you know this, that the Bible 50:40 gives you the same name as the Holy Spirit? How many of you knew that? In Genesis chapter 2, God says, I want to give Adam a helper. Genesis chapter 2, it's a helper. And in John chapter 14, Jesus said, I'm going and I will send 51:00 you. Helper, the same name that God the Father gave to Eve is given to the Holy Spirit. And I like to see that. When I'm ministering here, do you see the Holy Spirit? No. But I sense him. The Holy Spirit is so humble that he 51:15 remains invisible and lets me get all the glory when he's doing all the work. It's fantastic, isn't it? The Holy Spirit, he gives me the words to say and helps me to say it and then acts as if he's not there at all. Imagine 51:30 a wife like that, unseen, hidden behind the scenes, you know, pushing her husband up and encouraging him and blessing him, blessing him. And people think the husband's a great man. He doesn't know that the wife does a lot for 51:44 him. I heard a preacher who his wife used to even write the notes for him, for sermon notes. And the way they found out was once he got stuck somewhere and said I can't read my wife's handwriting. Anyway, she was a good 52:02 wife. Everybody thought the husband was a great preacher. Okay. So, one more verse, Proverbs 14, verse 1. It says, a wise woman builds her house. Why does it say a wise man? Why doesn't it say a wise man? Why is it a wise 52:20 woman who builds her house? Because it is the woman who brings the spirit of submission into the home first, before the children come. Who brings the spirit of submission into the home? The spirit of Christ who submitted 52:34 to the father, the woman. She gets married and she brings the spirit of submission into the home, saturates the home with the spirit of submission and then a child is born and the child is born into and the children grow 52:53 up learning to submit because they have seen their mommy submit to their daddy. The best example you can be for your children. Many children don't submit to their mothers today because the mothers need to ask themselves 53:12 what do they see in my relationship with their father? The answer lies there. I want to say a few words about children and parents. You know we many women go out to work neglect their homes. That's another missing message 53:27 in today's Christianity. Now I believe that going to work out of necessity is one thing. A woman going to work I mean. And a woman going to work for raising one standard of living and living at a higher standard of luxury 53:40 is quite another thing. And there are situations in India where it's necessity. And in people don't have necessity they just want to live at a higher standard. Very often you find God does not give grace there and the children 54:00 suffer. I have seen with my own eyes children of parents having lifelong suffering. They don't become godly because the mother taught their children my job is more important than you. but mommy we are earning enough. 54:21 I know that but we got to learn a higher standard of living. But mommy you mean a higher standard of living is more important than you being a mother to me? Yes. I've got to do this I've got to do that when I get time I'll 54:33 also be a mother to you. It's sad. That's the world in which we live on the other hand here's a mother who goes to work out of necessity mommy why are you going to work you know my dear little girl my dear little boy we 54:46 don't earn enough in our home so we got to I've got to work I'm doing it for your sake so that I can put food on the table get you clothes give you an education and that child loves 55:07 when my wife and I were both very poor and our first son was born I decided that we both decided that she'll be a mother first and not a doctor she's never earned one rupee as a doctor she's only helped other people but 55:19 she was a mother first and I have absolutely no doubt in my mind today I was traveling so much that if my four boys are following mothers who haven't taken that position and 55:40 I've seen what is the result so I can only warn you I'm not here to tell you there's no verse in the Bible which says a woman should not go to work because there are some situations that maybe the husband is paralyzed or 55:50 sick can't go to work that's why there's no word in the Bible says women should not go to when Timothy was an 18 19 year old young man Paul saw him 56:11 Paul was such a strict man he wouldn't even take a fellow like John Mark despite all of Barnabas his recommendation you read in Acts 15 but in the next chapter we read as a replacement for John Mark Jesus I mean Paul saw 56:23 a young man called Timothy who had such a good testimony and all those churches around encouraging the young brothers encouraging the children oh I wish we had some Timothys like that in our churches and 56:45 who encourage the younger ones who are not seeking to get a name for themselves very few like that it's rare to see such people today you know who made Timothy the man he became his mother I'm sure she was a very submissive 56:57 woman she was married to a Greek husband God's word she was probably backslidden she had a God fearing mother called Lois you read that in 2nd Timothy 1 Unique was her name and she married this godless 57:17 man and repented when she got a child she said oh God I'm sorry I backslid but I'm determined to do one thing I'll bring up this child in a God fearing way and she did and he grew up to be an apostle what a ministry Timothy's 57:34 mother had Susanna Wesley did the greatest job for the church by raising up John Wesley to be a servant of God she had many children I think she had about 19 children some of them died a number of them died at least half 57:50 of them but she spent one hour a week with each of our children teaching them God's word be a mother first dear brothers and sisters let's restore the position of the home in today's Christianity let's pray heavenly 58:12 father help us to be what you want us to be on this earth help us to build homes like you want us to build on this earth we pray in Jesus name amen
