Zac Poonen - God's Plan for Our Families

Speaker: Zac Poonen Title: God's Plan for Our Families Date: 11/03/2024 Our Goal as Christians is this: To be an exact reflection of Jesus, the Son of God (Romans 8:29) We do this individually by growing in purity in our personal lives (1 John 3:2-3) We do this corporately by becoming fully functioning members of a local Church (Ephesians 4:11-16)

Summary

Zac Poonen teaches that the New Covenant emphasizes family life through the empowering presence of the Holy Spirit, which delivers believers from spiritual orphanhood and insecurity. He argues that healthy families require both husband and wife to know God intimately as Father and to be continuously filled with the Holy Spirit, which then naturally produces strong marriages and parenting—more foundational than external practices like family prayer. The true test of being filled with the Spirit is manifested in one's family relationships, not in manifestations like speaking in tongues, and this must be established before any effective ministry in the church can occur.

Outline

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Living Under the New CovenantBelievers must live under the New Covenant where God is known intimately as a Father rather than living like insecure orphans.

The Ministry of the Holy SpiritJesus connected not being an orphan with having the Holy Spirit dwelling inside, which brings complete security.John 14:16–18

Being Filled with the Spirit for Family LifeThe immediate result of being continuously filled with the Holy Spirit in Ephesians 5 is a right family relationship, not speaking in tongues.Ephesians 5:18–20

Eliminating Complaining Through ThanksgivingA primary mark of being filled with the Spirit is a spirit of Thanksgiving rather than grumbling and complaining.Ephesians 5:20

Avoiding the Spirit of AccusationBelievers must eliminate complaining and the spirit of accusation, which aligns one with Satan, while retaining loving correction.Revelation 12:9–10

Mutual Submission in the Fear of ChristFamily life in Ephesians 5 begins with mutual submission in the fear of Christ before addressing specific roles.

Treating Wives as Equal HeirsHusbands must live with their wives with understanding and show them honor as equal heirs of the grace of life, lest their prayers be hindered.1 Peter 3:7

Wives Recognizing HeadshipWives are called to be subject to their husbands as unto the Lord, following the divine chain of command and the example of Christ's submission.

The Sensitive Headship of HusbandsHusbands must love their wives as their own bodies, acting with tender sensitivity to every need just as the head cares for the body.Ephesians 5:28

Leaving Parents to Become One FleshBoth husbands and wives must emotionally detach from their parents so they can be fully joined to each other as one flesh.

The Core Needs of Love and RespectA wife's greatest need is to be loved by her husband, while a husband's greatest need is to be respected by his wife.Ephesians 5:33

Teaching Children Obedience and RespectParents must never allow children to speak disrespectfully, stopping rebellious behavior immediately to prevent future wwardness.

The Seriousness of Honoring ParentsJesus condemned the Pharisees for neglecting their parents, showing how seriously God views honoring father and mother.

Fathers Bringing Up Children Without Provoking AngerFathers must bring up their children in the discipline and instruction of the Lord without provoking them to anger.Ephesians 6:4

The Necessity of Fatherly DisciplineFathers are responsible to discipline their children, which yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness even if it is painful at the time.Hebrews 12:7–11

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