God’s Laws For A Godly Home | Zac Poonen | Annie Poonen | Tamil
2013 Karaikudi Conference Theme: God Honours Those Who Honour Him தேவனை கனம்பண்ணுகிறவர்களை அவர் கனம் பண்ணுவார் Message Title: 12) God’s Laws For A Godly Home - Zac Poonen தேவ பக்தியுள்ள ஒரு குடும்பத்திற்கு தேவன் அருளும் பிரமாணங்கள் Visit our website for more information: www.cfcindia.com
Summary
The sermon discusses God's laws for a godly home, drawing parallels between the original sin in Eden and modern marital conflicts. The central message is that in the New Covenant, believers do not fight against human beings—whether spouses or others—but rather against spiritual forces. When conflicts arise with loved ones, it indicates a return to the 'Old Covenant' mindset, and the believer must instead focus on spiritual warfare against the devil.
Outline
The message in plain words, in the order it unfolds. Select a time to jump the video to that moment.
Why God feels sad when marriages struggleGod established marriage in Eden with a great plan, just as a loving parent sets up a home for their children, and feels deep sorrow when couples constantly fight.
Fighting the devil instead of human beingsUnlike the Old Covenant where people fought human enemies, believers in the New Covenant do not fight flesh and blood, but instead recognize that the devil is the real enemy behind relational conflicts.
Turning the other cheek in your marriageWhen a spouse shouts or reacts in anger, keeping quiet instead of fighting back demonstrates that you understand you are wrestling against spiritual forces rather than your partner.
The helpless lamb in the lion's mouthJust as David rescued a lamb from a lion's mouth instead of fighting the lamb, a spouse acting out in anger is merely a captive in the devil's hands and should not be attacked.
Not letting Satan take advantage through unforgivenessFailing to forgive someone opens the door for Satan to exploit the situation, essentially knocking out both people in a marriage dispute.2 Corinthians 2:10
Be quick to ask and quick to forgiveA foundational rule for a healthy marriage and church life is being exceptionally quick to both ask for forgiveness when wrong and grant it when wronged.
Acknowledging that we all stumble in many waysEven mature spiritual leaders like James acknowledge that human beings constantly stumble, meaning we must never assume we are entirely without fault in a conflict.
Apologizing for accidental hurtsJust as you would immediately apologize for accidentally stepping on someone's foot on a crowded bus, husbands and wives must apologize for the many ways they hurt each other unintentionally.
Leaving father and mother to become one fleshThe foundational commandment for marriage requires cutting emotional ties of dependence on parents so that husband and wife can become truly unified in their decisions.Genesis 2:24
Honoring and caring for parents without letting them ruleLeaving parents does not mean ignoring or failing to care for them in their old age, but rather ensuring they do not interfere in the private decisions of the new household.
Living with your wife as a weaker vessel and co-heirHusbands must live with their wives understanding their emotional vulnerabilities while treating them as equal co-heirs to ensure their prayers are not hindered.
A wife's testimony on submission and graceA godly wife shares how realizing her own independent spirit led her to seek the Holy Spirit's help to submit, break her self-will, and build a peaceful home.
What to do when agitation arises in your heartWhen repeated frustrations cause anger to stir, the practical biblical advice is to be angry yet keep your mouth shut, go to your bed or another room, and meditate on God's word rather than sinning.
Not letting the sun go down on your angerEphesians reinforces the command not to sin in anger and warns against letting the sun set on unresolved disputes by clearing the air and seeking forgiveness before sleep.Ephesians 4:26
Taking the first step to close the gapTo have Jesus present in the midst of your home and to protect your children from the devil's attacks, the most spiritual person must always be willing to take the first step in asking for forgiveness.Matthew 18:20
